Ideas For Unity Candles

Traditionally, the unity candle involves three candles. The bride has one, the groom the other, and their two lighted candles light the third candle. This is done to represent the coming together of the two people to make one unit. In some alternate methods, family members are invited to participate in the unity candle lighting, often the mothers of the bride and groom, or other close members of the family. Each family then lights a candle, and together they light the unity candle to symbolize of the coming together of the families.

Now, there are a few twists you can add to this fairly conventional aspect of a wedding ceremony. You can provide each guest with an unlit candle when they arrive at the ceremony. After the couple lights the unity candle, they can ask the guests to move to the front of the church, venue, (or wherever the ceremony is being held) and light their candles with the lighted unity candle. This can take a bit of time and might be best with a smaller guest list. But it is a meaningful way to not only get your guests involved in the ceremony itself, but also symbolize the union of family and friends with the marriage.

If there is a large guest list and it would be a prohibitive use of time to do a candle lighting involving everyone at the ceremony, some brides and grooms like to bring the unity candle to the reception. Light the candle again and provide each guest with a small votive candle (the candle holder will be on the tables at individual table settings). As guests come into the reception area or hall, they can light their votive and take it to their table to place into the votive holder. This small votive candle can double as a wedding favor, particularly if you decorate or enhance a plain votive candleholder in some way to coordinate with your wedding.

Of course, it is not a must to have a unity candle at the ceremony. Many brides these days are trying to reduce the length of the ceremony and spend more time planning the reception. In that light, some choose to do away with a unity candle altogether. You can certainly do this, or you can cut it out of the ceremony and make it part of the reception.

To do this, you can use the votive candle option suggested above, or you can simply incorporate the unity candle lighting into the reception activities themselves. For example, you might choose a quiet moment in the reception to have a lighting of the unity candle. It might be during a short prayer prior to the serving of the meal, or right before the cake is cut. In this case, the unity candle can then be used as decoration on the cake table. As the bride and groom cut the cake and pieces are served to guests, the candle can also serve as a reminder of the couple’s new bond and that the bond is shared with all the guests as well.

Although having a unity candle at the wedding or reception isn’t necessary, it is certainly an option that many brides and grooms opt to include. But it’s important to remember that as with so much surrounding wedding planning there are ways to make it unique and interesting and special to the couple getting married.

Bridesmaid Dresses & Such

I just wanted to share one of my fave vendors: The Dessy Group They have great Bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses, and their gifts & accessories are amazing! The flower clips that can be added to each bridesmaid dress, just may give you that special touch you have been looking for!  The accessories can match the color of the bridesmaid dresses, but can be used ALL THE TIME! Like the tote bags and purses! I LOVE this tote purse! It’s the perfect size for me, and has the outside pocket and all! HOW CUTE! Wedding aside, you can still shop for great gifts here, having ALL the fun color options, etc.   …..Yep, I shop their accessories all the time, you don’t have to be a bride….

Lighting Makes Your Event


Lighting is a way to take your event to a entirely different level.  If done right, it can be very elegant.  Added with a touch of draping, and your event will become magical.  Many brides think that lighting is an over-the-top expense that isn’t worth it; however, lighting is one of the best things you can do for any event.  It can take your event from drab to fab instantly! Lighting is what makes an event visually stunning.  Sometimes lighting is more important than decor when it comes to transformation of a venue. If buget is an issue, focus on the dance floor, tables, food and entertainment area.  

There are a few lighting terms you will want to become familiar with in doing your lighting research: gobo (monograms), rig/lighting trusses/lighting trees, uplighting, pinspots, washes and gels.  If you can’t afford to hire a lighting company, ask your venue if any special affect lighting comes with the venue as part of the package deal.  You might be surprised!  And remember, decor is like a jigsaw puzzle.  Do your homework and align yourself with great professionals.

I’ve never met a Cupcake I didn’t like before…..

 Cupcakes have officially made a comeback, and in a MAJOR way. They have moved from the “kids section” in the back,  to front and center of fabulous window displays, of bakeries, across America. No matter what flavor cupcake, or color of icing, you can do SO MUCH with them at your wedding reception, and really make your “Cake Table” stand out, in more ways than one. When I had lunch with David Tutera, he and I talked about wedding cakes and cupcakes, for about an hour. He prefers to put the cake table in the MIDDLE of the room, maybe across from the dance floor, closer to the sweetheart table/head table, or even at the entrance to the reception area, depending on the room layout. We talked about the cake being more of a centerpiece for the room, than tucked in the corner. I completely agree with him, I’m tired of seeing these amazing cakes in the corner of every ballroom. 

Below are some pics of cupcake weddings. Notice that the top tier, is still the “cake” so you still have a cake, for the bride and groom, to cut together, as tradition goes!

You can tier the cupcakes, you can do candle groupings, with flowers….the options are endless! Notice the Champagne, tiered tassels, and edible table decor in the first pic below. LOVE IT! You can do as many flavors as you want!  PLUS you will save the “cake cutting fee”! Yet another way to make your wedding unique, guest friendly, actually have a VARIETY of cake flavors, AND save money! So, now that I have cupcake fever, I think I will go to my favorite bakery, and just sample the “Fall Line” of Cupcakes….tee hee…No, I’m serious! And I will absolutely make another blog entry, with pictures of half eaten cupcakes!…, on that note, To be Continued….                                                         ……   


Unique & Memorable Ideas for Wedding Favors

Brides, keep in mind that MEN actually come to your wedding too, so candle favors really don’t excite them. Wedding Favors are all about presentation and making it personal and useful. So, you can put a lottery ticket & a fortune cookie in a beautiful box with a personalized bow…..A bottle of the couples favorite BBQ sauce can look elegant, if you pkg it right! Does the mother of the bride have THE BEST peach pie recipe, EVER? Package up fresh peaches, and attach the recipe, printed on layered vellum, and cut the edges with Scalloped Scissors. Attach a short story about the family recipe ….. You MAY spend LOTS of money on monogrammed candles & mints, that will just be thrown away ;-(  We’ve all done it.~~~~~~~Another idea…It is PERFECTLY okay, and actually more personal, if you SEND the “wedding favor” with the Thank You Note (after the wedding), INSTEAD of having a stack, or basket full of favors at your reception. For example: if you Honeymoon in the Cayman Islands, buy Rum Cakes in bulk, and send a boxed mini-rum cake along with your thank you notes. This way, you will not be looking at a basket of leftover favors, at the end of your wedding.

Wedding Trivia

“Carry the Bride Over the Threshold” came from Ancient Romans. The bride had to show that she wasn’t crazy about leaving her father’s home & was dragged over the threshold, to her groom’s house. They also believed that evil spirits, in an effort to curse the couple, hovered at the threshold of their new home, so the bride had to be lifted, to ensure that spirits couldn’t enter her body, through the soles of her feet…….this info will win you trivia one night!

~♥~Sweet Somethings~♥~

I’m ALL ABOUT giving little gifts, during the wedding planning process. So, BRIDES-consider giving your bridesmaids a little Christmas ornament that symbolizes your wedding (a specific flower, or theme piece) and personalize it with a Silver Sharpie. Here in the South, every ornament has a story, so every year, when your gals decorate their tree, they’ll be reminded of your wedding day, and how special they are to you.

Rethink Bridezilla Behavior

David Tutera does a wonderful job in his book, The Big White Book of Weddings, depicting the importance of why a bride wants to rethink the whole bridezilla behavior. 

“You have spent so much time, money and energy on making this day perfect and your behavior should reflect how much of a perfect bride you are to match! Proper grace is too often overlooked, and people make decisions that are inappropriate at their wedding.

Check any bridezila tendencies at the door; this is the time to wear your most gracious smile and turn up the charm!  While it is your wedding and you should have plenty to smile about, even the most put-together bride has a few moments where smiles don’t come naturally.  When those times come, be prepared.  Think Princess Diana….Make a list of the classiest women you have seen handle drama in the public eye.  Channel a bit of their poise to help prepare you to handle anything and be the “hostess with the mostess”.

You will be “on stage” with people watching you every moment of the day, so handle it calmly and with style.  No temper tantrums, crying episodes or fits of hysteria!  Avoid drinking too much alcohol.  Curb the smoking.  There is nothing more jarring than the sight of a bride in a beautiful dress with a cigarette in her mouth!  If you need to do it, hide!  If you are stressed, don’t show it in anger or abruptness; meet it with a positive demeanor, no matter how difficult, how rude that guest was to wear white on your wedding day, or how late the florist is.  What might be important to you now might not be important to you in twenty years when you are replaying your wedding video and see your outburst.  You want people to remember you as pretty, polished, elated, thankful, fun and in love all day long!”

Why We Love Etsy

There are all sorts of cool items to found on And we love the personalization and uniqueness that items from Etsy bring. It may be a bit difficult to search for specific items, but there are definitely lots of funky goods to be found. Here are 5 items from Etsy that we love.

1. Stone Place Cards

Rather than have the same place cards that you see at all weddings, these are a cute alternative. And, a souvenier your guests can treasure long after your wedding.


2. Signs

How cute is this sign? I look at it and want it at my wedding!


3. Something Blue

You gotta have a “something blue.” While these shoe stickers may seem like a splurge, it is a mini-splurge at only $12. And they make for great photos!